Maddy was stunningly beautiful, both inside and out. Maddy had a gentle love for all animals, particularly her Pugs. Maddy had a wonderful job teaching pre-school children. Maddy had a loving family, nice friends, a long term partner who loved her and she was studying to further her career. Maddy could have been anything she wanted to, but most of the time she was paralysed with anxiety, panic attacks, self-doubt and self-loathing.
Maddy suffered bullying from a young age by a small group of her peers. The bullying lasted throughout high school and afterwards. The psychological trauma that bullying caused Maddy left a scar that stayed with her all of her life.
The year before Maddy died she ran into the perpetrators of her suffering at a night club. One of them walked up to Maddy and threw a drink in her face. All Maddy had done was walk into a room. Witnesses told me they had never seen people be so vicious to someone who had done nothing to provoke it. Maddy never recovered from this incident, The people that were unkind to Maddy were not responsible for her death, but they were the catalyst for her ongoing mental heath issues.
Maddy tried hard to live a good life, she was such a beautiful, kind soul. Maddy was a perfectionist, thinking this would make people like her. Failure of any kind was not an option for her. In the end Maddy’s low self esteem and lack of self worth left her with no resources to deal with the issues that she perceived were in her life at that time. On 24 June 2018, Maddy took her own life age 23 years.
B Kind Co. was created in the light of Maddy’s memory to remind people about the importance of words. Maddy was a sensitive soul, but aren’t the sensitive souls the ones we need to take special care of?.
Before you consider being unkind to another person, before you consider an unkind action, please think of Maddy, and think about the words that you use, the actions that you take, and stop. If you are being bullied, please remember how utterly special you are, that you are loved and there is always hope.
We continue to raise money for Beyond Blue and Breakthrough Mental Health Research Foundation and donations can be made through Maddy’s memorial pages at these organisations (links found on our charity page).
We believe that if people were kinder to our beautiful girl, she may still be with us. Please remember our story, and be kind, always.
(If Maddy’s story has raised any concerns for you, please call Lifeline on 13 11 14)